Friday, November 27, 2015


“The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day.”--David Foster Wallace

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

The Self Care Pouch

My mom and I have a special ritual called "I clean out her purse." Being an unabashed, only slightly recovered neat-freak, I love this ritual; because my mom's purse is supremely unorganized, she does too. Recently during this ritual I discovered my mom had no home for her self-care products. I transferred pens and pencils from one pouch to an inside purse pocket and re-named the old office supply sac the self care pouch. My teacher Ali taught me ages ago to travel with an altar; Ali brings her altar with her wherever she goes. Some of us take the saying "the body is a temple" seriously and for that reason, if none other, a self care pouch is an excellent idea. Your body is with you wherever you go, I say bring along some nice stuff to do for it. My self care pouch has coconut lotion, extra tissues, my favorite lip balm and an essential oil I use with my intentions throughout the day. If you don't use a purse, turn a pocket of your jeans into a self care pouch, or the interior slot in your car's door. By creating self-care systems, we acknowledge the Self that is with us wherever we go.

Friday, November 20, 2015

"Prayer for Our Times"

 From the great leaders at The Power Path, Jose and Lena Stevens about what you can do during these times of fear and confusion:

"Be compassionate towards others who are having a difficult time.
Be generous with your kindness and be accepting of what is (this does not make it right)
Send love, compassion and forgiveness out to anyone who can use it.
Send out an intention to help release the trauma, fear and shock patterns connected with any acts of violence.
Take good care of yourself and your loved ones. Keep your vibration high and be around beauty, inspiration and gratitude."

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Waiting Isn't Just Waiting

Thank goodness for my recent Ayurvedic consultation in which I was told to live life at 73%. 73% is a great way to spend a snow day. Typically in the past I would have been sad that my two clients cancelled and might've felt the need to go into town for some of my errands. Not today. I got 9 hours of sleep last night, it's almost 11 and all I've really accomplished is a little snow shoveling and some car sweeping. That Nature is one of our greatest teachers is not news to me. I wonder why it's taken me so long to get that the seasons are great teachers too. Winter teaches the art of patience and that waiting isn't just waiting.

"We cannot always have what we want when we want it. For different reasons, what we want to do, have, be, or accomplish is not available to us now. But there are things we could not do or have today, no matter what, that we can have in the future. Today we could make ourselves crazy trying to accomplish what will come naturally and with ease later."--Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go

Friday, November 13, 2015

For Paris

thank you Jean Jullien for the beautiful image

"Pray without ceasing." --1 Thessalonians 5:16

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

"It's A Privilege"

Recently I took a course on manifesting from the great Elena Brower. I enjoyed it and what she's teaching feels pretty much the opposite of the work I do in Al Anon. For the most part, the other people in the course asked questions about their careers. Some of the students wanted to talk about their anger and others, the school their kid goes to. The questions were great and I got something out of listening to Elena's response, even when it didn't feel like the topic had much to do with me.

In the last five minutes of the 4 week course, someone asked basically "Why Me?" She had the feeling that in some of her relationships, she's the one that tries, she's the one that is doing her work and she's bringing that learning her relationships. Maybe she even felt a little burnt out, like "Why do I always have to be the one...?" Elena didn't pause, "It is not your burden," she said, "it is your privilege." It is a privilege to do any growth work, any healing work, however large or small, and offer that learning, that vibration, to all our relationships, however large or small.

Friday, November 6, 2015

Ordinary People

"We meet no ordinary people in our lives."--C. S. Lewis

Tuesday, November 3, 2015


A few weeks ago my teacher Jen came to visit. She mentioned she wanted to try and sleep as late as she could while on her trip. "I wish I could do that," I said, "I just keep waking up earlier and earlier all the time; there's so much I want to do." She said something about how, according to Ayurveda, one of the best things we can do is not let our ambition interfere with our sleep. "What a nut-job," I thought. The morning is my most productive time. To be honest though, I do wish I could sleep in a little later, at least sometimes.

I visited our local Ayurvedic doctor and she addressed the dissatisfaction I'm having in the sleep department as a pitta imbalance. According to Ayurveda, pitta's main element is fire; pitta controls our digestion, metabolism and energy production. All great things except for in excess. My over-ambition of late had me waking up too early; sure I was getting loads done and basically I was ready to sack out at 5:30pm. Tizia, our local Auyrvedic guru says that she suggests to her pitta clients to try and function at 73%, a still high rate of accomplishment with plenty of time for rest and rebuilding.

It's been funny for me to find out I'll follow pretty much any new rule that comes my way, no matter if it's about working harder or working less. I've been following the new 73% rule to great success, stuff's getting done and it's okay if it's not getting done as quickly. And, very happily, I'm getting more sleep. And I'm still pretty chipper around 7:30pm.