Crush alert on mediator and shaman Elizabeth Clemants. I learned about Elizabeth thanks to my boyfriend Mike, whose love language is telling me about media I would like. Talking about "clearing dark energy" from our system, Elizabeth is open. She says we can go to a shaman to have them clear it out, or we can have coffee with a friend. "How do you get that heaviness out of your system?" she asks, "it's through insight, it's through awareness." I love her answer on this; insight and awareness are things we all have access to, we don't need to pay anyone. We can go for a walk and discover why we feel the way we're feeling, we can call a friend or stay home and be still with ourselves.
It's taken me all of my years to learn the way to support our friends and loves ones when they're going through a challenging time in relationship is to support both parties. We do not bolster the support we give our loved one by tearing anyone else down. Our judgement of the other person in our friends' situation, in sneaky little ways, can be judgement on our friend. For sincere and loving support, simply listen to your friend, truly listening is the greatest gift. If you want to offer anything back, reflect back to them what you heard. If your friend asks you for your advice or feedback, there are thousands of ways to give it with love for all involved.
"Quit wondering, worrying, and blaming yourself for being late. Or worse yet, missing the boat. 'Nothing else in the universe frets about being late. Does the moon ask itself if it's where it should be? Does the sun say, 'I must hurry, else I'll be late?'' a friend asked one evening when I was worrying about not being on time.
Stare up at the sky on a beautiful moonlit night. Feel the quiet, timeless rhythm of the planets, the moon, the stars, the universe. Know that you're connected, tuned into a deeper rhythm deeper and more secure than all your wondering could imagine. Breath deeply. Relax. Let your pace spring from knowing that inside your heart.
Trust the rhythm of the universe. You are right where you need to be. You'll get where you need to go. You have all the time you need."
I love The Artist's Way and have done it a couple times over the years. It's provided much great magic for me, and allowed me to get rigid in some of my thinking. If I remember correctly, Julia Cameron suggests while you're writing Morning Pages, not to read them. This got me into my black-and-white thinking and I've thrown away many notebooks over the years in the name of not reading what I've written. Recently, I changed my mind and re-read a notebook/journal I've been using since May. It's not all Morning Pages, a lot of it is notes I took on the energies, ideas on writing, my Step Work and things I've learned that might be worth sharing. This softening around reading what I'm writing feels more open than my rigid ways of the past and grants me the opportunity to be, what Elena Brower calls, "a student of myself." I'm not a student of myself out of ego or because I'm some great teacher, I am a student of myself so I can do my best to learn what I've learned.