Friday, May 17, 2013

Some Seeing for Me and My Sisters

"When you stop struggling, stop suffering, stop pushing and pulling yourself around food and your body, when you stop manipulating and controlling, when you actually relax and listen to the truth of what is there, something bigger than your fear will catch you. With repeated experiences of opening and ease, you learn to trust something infinitely more powerful than a set of rules that someone else made up: your own being." -Geneen Roth, Women, Food and God

Pretty sure it was Donald Draper who said, "Every woman worries about her figure." I think he's right. Worrying about our figures is just like worrying about anything else; it doesn't help. For some of us, it's just another addiction: something negative to give our power to. If you've ever thought you were anything other than totally lovely, please read Women, Food and God, stop worrying and start trusting yourself. One of my teachers taught me that in that moment when we want to start a diet, or never eat again or throw away all of our bathing suits, that's the moment we have the power. Cancel that thought, talk to someone else about it and start learning how to love yourself. A lot of these fears and projections aren't actually ours; they're in the water and we don't have to drink it.

I like what Elena Brower's best friend from 7th grade says, "Tell the truth about your feelings and your experiences; the good and the difficult and see the golden road appear that immediately connects you to others on the path. It's my favorite alchemy: this turning the garbage of shame and pain into the gold of understanding and relationship."

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