Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Clearing the Air

A few weeks ago when I was feeling freaked out, I was fortunate to receive a phone call from my highly intuitive next door neighbor. "My vibe is that you're fine," Lynne said in her South African accent and pretty much that was all of the convincing I needed. She was right, I was fine. Good to hear it from her though.

She reminded me that I do highly transformational work for lot of different people each week in my tiny apartment. She told me I need to continue with my true efforts to keep myself and my space protected from all of the things that people let go of while they're here.

I had been doing a good job of smudging my space and myself before and after each session but it was time to add another element. Lynne suggested I fill a spray bottle with water and a 7-10 drops of lavender essential oil and spray it around my house before and after all of my appointments. Something about negative ions and water being good because I'm a water sign, but it works really well for everyone. I kinda don't even care how or why it works because I can feel it. The tiny water drops create a lighter energy, my nighttime dream life has calmed down and the nervous nonsense that was driving my brain around in circles has subsided.

Friday, January 25, 2013

I Measure My Success

Last week, I got really confused. I was talking to a friend of mine who had recently moved, with her husband, into their very own tiny house. At first, I was excited for her, they built it themselves, they had been looking for and finally found a field in which to put it, and I love tiny things. Then my friend said something like, "I'm just so relieved we own our own house. No matter what happens, we'll always have our tiny house." This particular lady is not the only person that I've talked to who had the big dream of owning a house.

I had been in a funk all week and when our conversation ended, I felt like I failure for not also owning my very own tiny house. I'm nowhere near buying a house, tiny or otherwise. Then, I freaked out about how far I am from buying a house for the next day and a half. Finally, on a much needed solo hike in the high desert, I got some clarity.

While walking, I started practicing The 5 Steps of Forgiveness. I forgave the world for causing me anxiety, I gave the world permission to forgive me for feeling anxiety. Yes--It's okay with me if you think I'm crazy. At last after releasing the feeling around the confusion, I was able to find some clarity. "Oh right!" I remembered, "I don't measure my success based on money or material possessions. I almost forgot! I measure my success based on how many people I can help feel better, more connected, and happier." Phew.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Happy Friday

Dearest Readers of TandT,

Thank you so much for reading!!! This is so great. You guys are the best. For real, thank you.

After writing tipsandtricks every Tuesday and Thursday, with the exception of two Thursdays for nearly a year and a half, it is time to switch things up. Although I love the beauty of TandT standing for both Tips and Tricks AND Tuesdays and Thursdays, Tuesdays and Thursdays have become my busiest days. I am going to try and hang in there on Tuesdays but, for now, look for your Thursday tipandtrick on Friday.

We're going to have so much fun; Friday is such a fun, easy and popular day.

Tomorrow fair readers!


Tuesday, January 22, 2013

The C Word

Ok kids, I'm just gonna come out and say it: I'm a big fan of colon hydrotherapy. Yep: colonics. I recommend them to my friends all the time for different reasons, if they have a cold, if they're trying to give up dairy, if they're feeling constipated, the list goes on.

I recommended a colonic to a friend of mine who was sick over the weekend. My friend told me that they had heard colonics and enemas could be addictive. I replied confidently that I'm sure they could but if I had never gotten addicted then certainly my friend wouldn't either. And then my friend asked me how often I got them. I felt kinda defensive, but then I remembered that defending is fighting and I just answered their question.

If I had felt like fighting I would have said something like, "Have you ever known me to feel as sick as you feel right now? Nope. That's because colonics are a part of my wellness management."  Wellness management is something that I feel very strongly about. Our culture typically tends towards crisis management, only asking for help when there's something wrong. I try and take good care of myself with B.E.S.T. phone sessions, and colonics on a regular basis, and I exercise, do yoga, meditate and eat an alkalizing diet to feel good every day. Of course I still feel under the weather sometimes, but typically when I feel poorly, it's just because I need more rest. As a wellness practitioner I run into people all of the time who think they can't afford to implement a wellness program. I feel like I can't afford not to. Being sick always costs more.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013


Sometimes I get fearful about the silliest things. Over the weekend, I was anxious about how attached I've become to Mike's dog Smokey. My love for Smokey feels totally out of my control. I miss him when I don't see him for a few days, and sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night wondering how he's doing.

Reading what Animal Speak has to say about dogs helps to calm my nervous heart, "If a dog has come into your life as a totem, ask yourself some questions. What is this saying about your need for or lack of companionship? Are you being faithful? Are you being faithful to yourself? Are you showing unconditional love or receiving it? Do you need to play a little more? The dog is a powerful totem REFLECTING faithfulness and companionship." (Andrews, 265)

All this unconditional love stuff is reminding me of that one time I blew up my spot. So much life has happened since then; but I remember how powerful my open heart felt. I pretty much always hate that part of yoga when we do backbends, but boy do I see its value, keeping your heart open takes a lot of practice.

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Easier Said Than Done

One time, a mentee of mine said something that I very much related to. She said, "Ash, I'm afraid I'm going to be too tired." Yep, I know that feeling. In fact, sometimes, I schedule social plans with an eye on "Will I be too tired?" At the time, I responded assuredly with something like, "If you take the time to rest completely when you are tired, you will have energy when you feel like you need it." Easier said than done.

Do you guys have an "eco-dry" button on your dryers? I came over to Mike's house after work (tired) to hang out with our dog and do laundry. I chose the eco-dry setting because I am a sucker for anything called eco. The "time remaining" indicator hasn't been going down, it's been going up. I appreciate the honesty, really I do, but I got shit to do. About an hour ago it said there was 9 minutes left and then about 15 minutes ago, it said there was 24.

In the strange purgatory of the "eco-dry" setting, I have not gotten anything done. Distracted by the long list of errands I want to run before the sun goes down, I have not rested. In fact I have been the picture of restless, I've had 3 snacks, played with the dog, read half of a lot of articles in the newspaper, and checked my email 4 times. I've written about this before, back then, I was writing about doing, totally different than resting, relaxing or even just being. Dryer purgatory or not, can YOU rest if you're tired in the middle of the day when nothing's been checked off your list? If so, you're my hero.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013


My teacher Jen believes that unlearning is just as important as learning. The other day she was talking about how knowledge is a thorn that we use to remove the thorn of our conditioning, but ultimately, we throw both thorns out.

I like the way Jack Gilbert puts it. It's a little more glamorous. He says, "We must unlearn the constellations to see the stars."

Thursday, January 3, 2013

"Put the Sword Down"

The other day I had the impulse to call someone; I had felt like our connection had been a little fuzzy, and I wanted to explain my half of why. Remembering what my friend Emily Stone says, "don't complain, don't explain," I held off.

I was talking with my teacher Jen about it, and she liked my impulse not to call. We've talked a lot over the years about how "everything is perfect exactly the way it is," and she particularly likes the motto, "live and let live."

"Stop fighting," she said. "And defending is fighting. Put the sword down." I can't tell you how good it feels to focus on my life and let other people focus on theirs.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Let the Healing Begin

One time, when I was at a B.E.S.T. seminar, the teacher talked about being grateful for what you what as if you already have it. He mentioned specifically something he does at the beginning of each one of his client's sessions. When the client lays down, Dr. Brown immediately feels grateful for all of the healing that has already happened, just by virtue of them calling, showing up, and laying down on the table.

I was talking to someone the other day who said he was nervous to go to yoga. He had never been to yoga before, and, you know, anything could happen. Talking with him about it made me remember the first time I ever went to Laughing Lotus, the place where I ended up going to yoga school, teaching, and meeting all of my best friends. But that FIRST day, I didn't know anyone. I remember thinking, "Why's everybody being so social? How the heck do they all know each other?"

Turns out  gratitude is a great way to combat any kind of nervousness, whether it's social anxiety before yoga or nerves sitting in the waiting room before a job interview. Before yoga, even if you do know everybody, go ahead and lay down on your mat. Even though you may be tired and dreading the practice, allow a sense of relief to set in: you made it. If you can't lay down because you're in a waiting room before surgery or about to go in for the big interview, do your best to combat your nervousness with relief. Relax as much as you can; being nervous won't help. You got yourself here: relax and be grateful. We've all heard the stories of people who tense up right before they're in a car accident versus people who don't see em coming and are completely relaxed at the moment of impact. Those folks who "don't know what hit them," have less serious injuries and almost always recover more swiftly. Your body is a powerful machine; give it some time and space, feel good, and let the healing begin.